Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?

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You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Just get registered.

 

 

Say YES to the dress: Tip for shopping success

You said YES to the groom, now it’s time to say YES to the dress!

The appointment is made, your Pinterest board is complete and you are ready to shop.

There are certain items you should have with you at your appointment that will make your experience easier and more pleasant. 

  1. A nude strapless bra
  2. Nude heels or your wedding shoes if you already have them
  3. Simple Jewelry (if any at all)

There are also some things you can do that will help you visualize better.

  1. Have your hair somewhat “done”  – your consultant will put at least one accessory item in your hair. A bridal appointment is not complete without at least trying on one veil.
  2. Wear neutral or very minimal makeup. You want the focus to really be on the dress.
  3. Eat light before, you don’t want to be starving while making such an important decision.
  4. Bring one or two important people with you. An entire entourage will make the decision process harder.

Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?

Aside

You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Go to the store or grab your laptop – and get registered. 

 

 

Buying Suits is better… or is it?

Rather than renting menswear for your wedding, your considering just purchasing suits. It’s cheaper and everyone can use a suit… right? Not necessarily.

This popular thinking is very popular among couples right now. For some weddings, this is a great choice. For most though, rentals are a better idea. You are given a better product at a lesser price.

Weighing out the pros and cons of purchasing versus renting is so important before making your decision.

Myth: Suits are cheaper.

Reality: Suits are the purchase of a jacket and pant (sometimes a vest).  Yes,  those two pieces might carry a minimal cost. Ask yourself this..

Are the gentleman in your party going sans shirts, shoes and accessory?

We hope not! Along with the purchase of a suit comes the rental or purchase of a shirt, vest and tie, shoe, cuff-links  and pocket square. Shoes also need to be considered. Not everyone will have an acceptable pair of shoes at hand. Purchasing or even just renting these items will add up quickly.

Also, suits require alterations to obtain ideal fit. Not only does this add to the budget. It requires time and an appointment.

Myth: Everyone can use a suit.

Reality: Not everyone can actually use a suit. Today, most professional jobs only require “business casual”. Most people do not wear suits to work. As far as other social events go, the average person only attends a formal event every 2 years. Most formal events are also “business casual”…

If you are thinking they can wear it in another wedding, think again. Each designer has a unique fabric, fit and lapel style. Even thought you have impeccable taste..the selection for your big day will likely not be the same as someone else. 

Myth: Rentals are so expensive

Reality: Most full service stores offer a free groom and discounts of up to $50 off each additional rental. The savings, especially during bridal shows and peak booking season can be amazing. You can easily gain leverage with a large wedding party.

Myth: Buying gets you a better product.

Reality: Renting gets you a better product. A typical rental coat and pant would retail for $500-$800. They are made from fine fabrics, high thread count wool (meaning a soft feel) and have a designer name brand behind them. The typical suit is purchased for around $100. The suit is $100 suit. They are polyester, imported from China and have no designer or brand name to stand behind them. It’s nice for day use or for a guest to wear to your wedding. Next to your bridal gown, your perfect dress- it might look a little cheap.

Myth: At least we can try a suit on…

Reality: Your full service store will offer a complete try on for you before you make your final decision. If you are on the fence about accessory items or unsure of fit. You can try it on.

 

 

Even though it’s popular right now, and might seem like a good idea- consider your options before making your final decision to purchase suits. It’s your wedding day- your wedding photographs. The average bridal gown costs $1589 .. what would it look best next to?

Rentals get a bad rep sometimes. Today, styles are different than they were when you went to prom. Found something on Pinterest? Rent it. It will complete the other half to your perfect wedding look.

 

 

Your Bridal Appointment: Tips for Success

Your bridal appointment experience will be one of the most memorable parts of your planning adventure. Follow our top tips to ensure your success. 

  1. Bring  one or two people. Not too many more. A big entourage may seem like a good idea at the time, however, too many opinions can make for a heartbreaking experience. All wedding gowns are gorgeous, it’s about finding the one that makes YOU feel the best.
  2. Avoid excess alcohol and salt the day before You want to be able to experience how you will look and feel in your dress. If your a little puffy, sleepy or have a headache it’s a little more challenging to see the big picture. Style your hair extra pretty and wear a little heavier makeup.
  3. Wear nude undergarments and leave the bright colored socks at home. Nothing takes away from that breathtaking moment than a pair of neon socks adorned with cats.
  4. Prepare to find “the one”. You never know when it will happen. For some it’s the 1st dress, for some it’s the 12th. You might get that butterfly feeling, all teary eyed and just know. You might find your dress through process of elimination. The experience is different for every bride. Rest assured though, it will happen.
  5. Have an idea of what you are looking for. Make sure your stylist knows about your wedding, the colors, the location and has an idea of how you want to feel on your big day. If she isn’t asking these questions, she should be.

Bridal Fantasy Show is Tomorrow! Prepare with our top tips

Bridal Fantasy Show is tomorrow 10.25.15 and A Grand Bridal Event is next Sunday 11.1.15. We can hardly contain our excitement! Are you ready to plan?

Below are our top tips on making your experience at the show the best it can be:

  • Get there early, have a plan for the day. You know there will be booths to see and vendors to talk to. Many of the vendors have show incentives, be ready to take advantage of them. It might be a FREE VEIL to wear at the show for making an appointment to come and look at bridal gowns and maids dresses. (hint, hint)
  • Bring labels. Some booths will have door prizes. To save ink (and your hand) simply bring pre-printed labels with your information already on them.
  • Have a special wedding email address! You love getting emails about planning but have a hard time staying on task at work when all you see is planning and wedding related emails. This is a good way to keep work and planning separate.
  • Wear comfortable shoes. Show days are meant for walking around, leave your cute heels at home for the bachlorette party night.
  • Eat before you come. The day gets long and cupcake samples are awesome but not so filling. A hungry bride will surely not have as much fun.
  • Stay the whole time! To be eligible for the grand prize package give-a-way, you must be present to win. It’s quite the experience to watch.
  • Bring your entourage! The more the merrier. Not only is it a super fun way to spend time with your besties, but it’s fun to share the experience with the ladies you are closest to.

Miss.B.Perfect-Affair: Is it too soon?

Miss. B. Perfect-Affair is our resident wedding expert. Each month, she answers all your etiquette questions. Planning a wedding would be impossible without ruffling a few feathers. Have a question for her? Comment to the post below and she will surely answer. 

Dear Miss. B. Perfect-Affair,

I am engaged and planning a June 18th wedding next Summer. I know there is a suggested time frame of 6 months for ordering dresses and such…. With that being said, I feel like that is much too close to the wedding. I’m a planner. I already have started shopping and how found some dresses I want. Is it too soon to order? 

Is-it-too-soon

Dear Is-it-too-soon,

It is never too soon to order. Most bridal fashion is timeless and styles don’t vary too much from one season to the next. In fact, the sooner you can cross dresses off your long list, the better. Your bridal attire is one of the first items you should shop for. The styling of your gowns really help shape the look of the entire day. So, the answer is simple; no. Order away.

Best wishes and good luck,

Miss. B. Perfect-Affair

Bridesmaids

Dear Miss. B. Perfect-Affair,

My fiance refuses to wear a jacket at our wedding. I understand he wants to keep a relaxed look and is all concerned about cost. My wedding is in a church and I have an understated, but stunning ballgown. I don’t feel his casual attire matches my wedding day vision.

Sincerely,

might-as-well-wear-jeans

Might-as-well-wear-jeans,

You poor girl. He has some good reasons for wanting to nix the coat on his attire, however, he may be a little misinformed. First of all, the menswear in your wedding should compliment the ladies. In a church setting with a gorgeous ballgown, a jacket should be worn- at least for the ceremony. Most churches have air conditioning and most modern ceremonies take less than 30 minutes.

As for cost, most of the time the groom is given his rental for free. Also, just removing the jacket from the rental package usually doesn’t remove much of the cost. Many times, the discounts and special sales for rentals are only valid on full suits or tuxedos.

I would advise you to chat with him about all the options and see your local bridal or formal wear store.

Good luck with everything,

Miss.B. Perfect-Affair