Ways to annoy your bridesmaids

Ways to really annoy your bridesmaids:

   Expecting everyone to love each other the same way you love each of them

Even though your leading ladies are your besties, it doesn’t mean they will become best friends with each other or even get along. Different personalities can clash and often times do. To avoid a potential disaster, casually introduce everyone to  ahead of time. This might make for fewer surprises during wedding related functions.

   Pretending the dress is so cute that they will wear it over and over again

You know the saying: Chop it off and wear it again!… ya right. We all know this isn’t the likely case when it comes to dresses. Make sure your girls know how much you like the dress and appreciate them for wearing it on your special day. If you are concerned about potential re-wearing, opt for black or navy and something in a shorter length.

Having multiple expensive wedding related events

Weddings are expensive enough to be a part of: Dresses, gifts, travel days, and spa time all add up quickly.  Throw in a few showers and a get-a-way bachelorette weekend- you are asking for some upset girls. Be mindful of costs and consider making some events or things optional to keep everyone happy and on budget.

   Saying that “You don’t care” when it comes to shoes and hair

Face it: You do care. Telling your girls that you don’t will do nothing but cause stress on them and set up for disappointment. You may be laid back, but give some direction on what you are expecting. Share a few ideas, some photos, or even make a little list describing some things you like for your big day.

 Giving out last minute details

Get a list or an itinerary together so everyone can be prepared. If you don’t let people know until the last minute it will do nothing but create stress for everyone, yourself included. Be clear about the details as soon as you can so your girls know what to expect and where to be when.

  Being a know-it-all

Knowing how you want everyone to look and act on your big day is one thing, being a snotty B about getting things that way is UN-acceptable behavior. Asking your pale bridesmaids to tan, your blonde to touch up her roots, or your lip gloss queen to go easy is not okay. You know and love them for who they are remember why you asked them to be there in the first place.

Nobody likes a bridezilla 

Your big day is finally here, enjoy it! Don’t snip at your girls because you are stressed out. They are here to love and support you. Remember that when someone accidentally steps on your dress while giving you a hug.

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Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?

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You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Just get registered.

 

 

Say YES to these shower themes!

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It’s inevitable, you are going to have a bridal shower. Traditionally, you will get a corsage or flower pinned to your dress. Then, a series of somewhat embarrassing games will be played. Next, you will be served cake and punch -followed by coffee. Last, you will be showered with gifts. Some brides get 2, 3 or even more showers.

Although we are truly grateful for these celebrations- sometimes a break from tradition is needed. 

A bridal shower can be thrown by family, friends or even co-workers- really anyone who wants to celebrate your getting married.

Your shower does not have to play out like the above, you are a modern bride. You can help in the planning of and the events that take place at your party.

Below are some awesome new ideas we have seen and heard of from our brides:

A grown up tea party! Gather at your local coffee shop and have a real high tea. Serve hot and iced tea with an assortment of fine pastry items and finger food. Don’t forget the sugar cubes and milk. Spice it up by wearing cute dresses and hats.

Get a little sassy with a lingerie inspired shower. This one might be better attended by friends or co-workers. Make sure the hostess knows your panty and bra size. Marriage lasts forever, you can never have enough sassy clothes.

Love to bake? How about everyone bring their favorite sweets recipe along with a baking dish or serving piece. Each guest can share about their “sweet” gift and a memorable bonding experience will be had.

Maybe cooking is your thing- use the same concept as above.

Wine and Chocolate? Beer and Bacon? – Although we prefer the former, this is your party! The menu should fit your tastes.

Showers are a fun time to spend with loved ones- the themes you can use are endless. It’s okay to break away from tradition.

 

 

Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?

Aside

You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Go to the store or grab your laptop – and get registered. 

 

 

On Point: Menswear Trends

A scratchy black tuxedo is no longer the norm when it comes to today’s menswear. The modern groom wants to look and feel as amazing in his wedding day frocks.

We have started to see a shift in the formal menswear industry, especially in 2015.  It’s really become all about individuality and is very personality focused.

Narrow shawl lapels are replacing the once thick satin styles that are reminiscent of the high school prom.

Other than traditional black, white or ivory; today’s groom has a full spectrum of colors to choose from. Navy is gaining popularity. We are seeing shades of gray every weekend.

Not everyone wants a colorful vest to match the wedding color scheme. Suspenders, fabric vests and even cummerbunds are among the new selections. Designers are really providing so many choices. Every groom can truly create a custom look.

Modern day menswear is all about the fit. Today’s groom wants the convenience of a rental but the fit of a tailor-made suit. Designers are responding to this request. There are now three available “fits” to ensure the best look.

Today’s groom has so many more choices when it comes to his wedding day attire. Gone are the days when the only personal touch to his get up was the vest color.

The more you know:

Did you know that Affairs by Brittany provides each groom with a try on? He is actually able to see and try on a sample of his exact wedding day look.

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Planning a wedding: by THIS Summer

First of all, Congrats!

Maybe you just got your ring or maybe you just started the planning process. Who says you need a whole year or more to plan your perfect wedding? Follow our tips for planning a wedding in less than 6 months.

1. First things first: Venue and Reception Site

Besides your beloved groom-to-be these are two things you absolutely need to host a wedding celebration.  Call around and check availability. Keep an open mind, a Friday night celebration or even Sunday wedding might get you your dream venue. Other days of sometimes are less expensive.  Your reception venue will either cater in-house or have a list ready for you to select from. Keep it simple.

2. Next comes the dress!

You don’t need weeks of endless shopping to find your perfect gown. As most designers require 6-9 months for delivery, you will most likely be shopping for a gown off the rack. Some stores carry expedited shipping dresses as well. Both options will give you more than enough to chose from. An off the rack gown sometimes will save you money. Your perfect accessories will surely be available at the boutique you find your dress at. Make sure to shop full service so an alterations person will be available.

3. Don’t forget the bridal party

Nearly all bridesmaids designers offer “rush” shipping on their dresses. For a small fee, they will put your order ahead of others to ensure a faster delivery. You still have all the selection you would even if your wedding was a year away. Make sure your besties understand the importance of getting their sizes and deposits in ASAP.

No matter if you are renting tuxes or purchasing suits: menswear only requires about 6 weeks. Just get in touch with the men in your party and make sure they know what sizes are needed and where to go. Out of town gentleman may phone in sizes for convenience.

4. The last of the major elements

You have your venue, your perfect dress and the attendants outfits ready to go. Now it’s time to focus on the rest. Contact entertainment, a florist, a photographer and shop for invites. Secure your deposits and set up meetings to figure out details later. Get those invites mailed at least 6-8 weeks before you say “I do”.

5. Decorations and the details

So much time can be spent on the small stuff. After your major plans are made, you can focus on the little details. Don’t stress over the small stuff- you don’t need everything from your Pinterest board. At the end of the day, you will be married: Mission Accomplished

Alternative Bachelorette Party Ideas

Jumping on the old party bus and bar hopping not your idea of a good time? You are not alone.  We have come up with some alternative bachelorette party ideas for you to celebrate with your girls before “I do”

How about a lake day? 

Day drinking or sober, who doesn’t love a day at the lake! Relax and get some sun with your favorite ladies. End the day with an all out buffet of your favorite summer food and Smores’s.

Go to the Races!

Horses or cars: who doesn’t love the thrill of a good race? It’s an event that everyone can attend and dress up for. You’ll surely attract (the good kind) attention.

What about a girly spa day? 

Manicures, pedicures and even a blowout are all affordable fun ways to glam up with the girls pre-wedding. Relaxation is key for wedding planning.

A grown up tea party

Gather the girls for finger sandwiches, scones and muffins. Most coffee shops have an area for informal parties and gatherings. Who doesn’t want to drink tea out of a fancy cup? Pinkie’s up!