Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?

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You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Just get registered.

 

 

Say YES to the dress: Tip for shopping success

You said YES to the groom, now it’s time to say YES to the dress!

The appointment is made, your Pinterest board is complete and you are ready to shop.

There are certain items you should have with you at your appointment that will make your experience easier and more pleasant. 

  1. A nude strapless bra
  2. Nude heels or your wedding shoes if you already have them
  3. Simple Jewelry (if any at all)

There are also some things you can do that will help you visualize better.

  1. Have your hair somewhat “done”  – your consultant will put at least one accessory item in your hair. A bridal appointment is not complete without at least trying on one veil.
  2. Wear neutral or very minimal makeup. You want the focus to really be on the dress.
  3. Eat light before, you don’t want to be starving while making such an important decision.
  4. Bring one or two important people with you. An entire entourage will make the decision process harder.

Back on track: Healthy YOU!

Now that the holidays are completely over, 2017 is in full force. It’s time to get motivated and be the best version of you!

Easier said than done, right? Wrong.

Follow our simple steps below and watch your self control return and those extra holiday pounds fall away as quickly as they came on.

Increase you fiber and protein intake. You hear this all the time, and for good reason. Fiber and protein keep you fuller longer. Also, a high fiber and protein mixture will typically be found in healthier eating choices.

Eat when your hungry, not because you are bored. This is something so obvious but so hard. Food tastes good, especially the bad for you stuff. It’s instant gratification and something to “do” while you are sitting on the couch watch T.V. Trade the pretzels for some herbal tea. It still has flavor and keeps your hands busy.

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You have to move more. Join a Fitbit challenge, take the stairs, park further away- do what you have to. Moving burns calories- calories are what you need to burn to lose weight.

Try to make muscle. Muscle burns fat- it looks better too. The easiest way to do this is by lifting weights. If the gym isn’t your thing, try doing body weight exercises from home. Push-ups, lunges, dips and squats can all be done in your living room.

Get motivated. Sites such as Pinterest or Instagram  are full images that will get you motivated. Maybe it’s a tropical beach that will remind you of summer, a photo of your wedding gown or simply a quote. Find out what gets you going.

When are you having a baby?

“So, when are you having a baby?”

How many times have you been asked this question?

If you are planning a wedding, recently married or engaged-the chances are pretty likely.

Eager friends and family members just can’t wait!

Maybe you have plans to start (or expand) your family right after the ceremony. Then again, maybe you just don’t know.  Below are our favorite answers to the popular question.

  • We already have one and she/he is perfect! (This works with a fur baby just the same)
  • Although it’s been fun trying, we aren’t really sure just yet.
  • What a great question… I wish we knew the answer!
  • At least 9 months from now.
  • Well I just married one, not sure if I want more yet.
  • As soon as we get through our student loans, we don’t want to pay for tuition and diapers at the same time.
  • We aren’t sure, what about you?
  • We might start trying in _____  years/months
  • For now, we are just going to enjoy being married. No one knows what the future holds.

Say YES to these shower themes!

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It’s inevitable, you are going to have a bridal shower. Traditionally, you will get a corsage or flower pinned to your dress. Then, a series of somewhat embarrassing games will be played. Next, you will be served cake and punch -followed by coffee. Last, you will be showered with gifts. Some brides get 2, 3 or even more showers.

Although we are truly grateful for these celebrations- sometimes a break from tradition is needed. 

A bridal shower can be thrown by family, friends or even co-workers- really anyone who wants to celebrate your getting married.

Your shower does not have to play out like the above, you are a modern bride. You can help in the planning of and the events that take place at your party.

Below are some awesome new ideas we have seen and heard of from our brides:

A grown up tea party! Gather at your local coffee shop and have a real high tea. Serve hot and iced tea with an assortment of fine pastry items and finger food. Don’t forget the sugar cubes and milk. Spice it up by wearing cute dresses and hats.

Get a little sassy with a lingerie inspired shower. This one might be better attended by friends or co-workers. Make sure the hostess knows your panty and bra size. Marriage lasts forever, you can never have enough sassy clothes.

Love to bake? How about everyone bring their favorite sweets recipe along with a baking dish or serving piece. Each guest can share about their “sweet” gift and a memorable bonding experience will be had.

Maybe cooking is your thing- use the same concept as above.

Wine and Chocolate? Beer and Bacon? – Although we prefer the former, this is your party! The menu should fit your tastes.

Showers are a fun time to spend with loved ones- the themes you can use are endless. It’s okay to break away from tradition.

 

 

Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?

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You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Go to the store or grab your laptop – and get registered. 

 

 

Buying Suits is better… or is it?

Rather than renting menswear for your wedding, your considering just purchasing suits. It’s cheaper and everyone can use a suit… right? Not necessarily.

This popular thinking is very popular among couples right now. For some weddings, this is a great choice. For most though, rentals are a better idea. You are given a better product at a lesser price.

Weighing out the pros and cons of purchasing versus renting is so important before making your decision.

Myth: Suits are cheaper.

Reality: Suits are the purchase of a jacket and pant (sometimes a vest).  Yes,  those two pieces might carry a minimal cost. Ask yourself this..

Are the gentleman in your party going sans shirts, shoes and accessory?

We hope not! Along with the purchase of a suit comes the rental or purchase of a shirt, vest and tie, shoe, cuff-links  and pocket square. Shoes also need to be considered. Not everyone will have an acceptable pair of shoes at hand. Purchasing or even just renting these items will add up quickly.

Also, suits require alterations to obtain ideal fit. Not only does this add to the budget. It requires time and an appointment.

Myth: Everyone can use a suit.

Reality: Not everyone can actually use a suit. Today, most professional jobs only require “business casual”. Most people do not wear suits to work. As far as other social events go, the average person only attends a formal event every 2 years. Most formal events are also “business casual”…

If you are thinking they can wear it in another wedding, think again. Each designer has a unique fabric, fit and lapel style. Even thought you have impeccable taste..the selection for your big day will likely not be the same as someone else. 

Myth: Rentals are so expensive

Reality: Most full service stores offer a free groom and discounts of up to $50 off each additional rental. The savings, especially during bridal shows and peak booking season can be amazing. You can easily gain leverage with a large wedding party.

Myth: Buying gets you a better product.

Reality: Renting gets you a better product. A typical rental coat and pant would retail for $500-$800. They are made from fine fabrics, high thread count wool (meaning a soft feel) and have a designer name brand behind them. The typical suit is purchased for around $100. The suit is $100 suit. They are polyester, imported from China and have no designer or brand name to stand behind them. It’s nice for day use or for a guest to wear to your wedding. Next to your bridal gown, your perfect dress- it might look a little cheap.

Myth: At least we can try a suit on…

Reality: Your full service store will offer a complete try on for you before you make your final decision. If you are on the fence about accessory items or unsure of fit. You can try it on.

 

 

Even though it’s popular right now, and might seem like a good idea- consider your options before making your final decision to purchase suits. It’s your wedding day- your wedding photographs. The average bridal gown costs $1589 .. what would it look best next to?

Rentals get a bad rep sometimes. Today, styles are different than they were when you went to prom. Found something on Pinterest? Rent it. It will complete the other half to your perfect wedding look.