Miss. B. Perfect-Affair is our resident wedding expert. Each month, she answers all your etiquette questions. Planning a wedding would be impossible without ruffling a few feathers. Have a question for her? Comment to the post below and she will surely answer.
Dear Miss. B. Perfect-Affair,
I was given a deadline of Valentine’s Day to order bridesmaids dresses for my August 2014 wedding. We want to ensure the dresses arrive in a timely manner so there is enough time for alterations and any last minute fittings. We found the dress, picked out the color, and most of my girls have placed their order. My problem is one of my girls just won’t place their order. She claims to be excited about the wedding, and says she will do it “tomorrow”.. but “tomorrow” never seems to come. I am beyond frustrated and just don’t know quite what to do.
Thank you in advance for helping me be tactful in this situation,
Some people just ruin the fun for everyone, don’t they? I understand your frustrations. Dealing with a friend or two who just don’t seem to listen to directions well is tough, especially when you are dealing with a deadline. My suggestion is to call your friend and set up a time when you both can go in and place the order together. This will give you an opportunity to spend time together and also ensure the order gets placed on time. If she lives out of town and is needing to call in her order, maybe have the store call her. Sometimes life gets busy and it’s helpful to have the shop call to gather the information. Your friend may need help understanding how important it is to you that this task get accomplished in a timely manner. Finances might also be of concern. Talk to her, if this is the case; offer to help her out. She will appreciate the gesture and it might help get that order placed.
Best wishes and good luck,
Miss. B. Perfect-Affair
Dear Miss. B. Perfect-Affair,
I found my dream gown at a local retailer, so exciting! While looking at Pinterest- I found a picture of it, there was a link to a website where it was hundreds less. Is this a really good deal or really to good to be true? The savings would without a doubt be helpful, but is it worth the risk? What’s a bride to do?
Have you ever heard the phrase, “If it’s too good to be true, it probably is?” In this situation, live those words.
Overseas factories have long been selling gowns and other things direct. Sometimes this results in a great deal, sometimes it results in a great deal of stress. Isn’t planning stressful enough?
The photo of your dream gown, was courtesy of the designer. Do not confuse this with the product you will actually be receiving. No doubt, you will receive a gown. It may even resemble the gown you fell in love with- but it’s not authentic. It’s not THE gown.
Your wedding gown is the most expensive article of clothing you will ever wear. It is also the most sentimental. Do you want to leave your perfect gown up to chance?
Best of luck planning,