About Affairs by Brittany

A few lovely ladies giving out advice, tips, and info on wedding planning and attire! We are a local bridal boutique with locations in Detroit Lakes, MN and Grand Forks, ND

Ways to annoy your bridesmaids

Ways to really annoy your bridesmaids:

   Expecting everyone to love each other the same way you love each of them

Even though your leading ladies are your besties, it doesn’t mean they will become best friends with each other or even get along. Different personalities can clash and often times do. To avoid a potential disaster, casually introduce everyone to  ahead of time. This might make for fewer surprises during wedding related functions.

   Pretending the dress is so cute that they will wear it over and over again

You know the saying: Chop it off and wear it again!… ya right. We all know this isn’t the likely case when it comes to dresses. Make sure your girls know how much you like the dress and appreciate them for wearing it on your special day. If you are concerned about potential re-wearing, opt for black or navy and something in a shorter length.

Having multiple expensive wedding related events

Weddings are expensive enough to be a part of: Dresses, gifts, travel days, and spa time all add up quickly.  Throw in a few showers and a get-a-way bachelorette weekend- you are asking for some upset girls. Be mindful of costs and consider making some events or things optional to keep everyone happy and on budget.

   Saying that “You don’t care” when it comes to shoes and hair

Face it: You do care. Telling your girls that you don’t will do nothing but cause stress on them and set up for disappointment. You may be laid back, but give some direction on what you are expecting. Share a few ideas, some photos, or even make a little list describing some things you like for your big day.

 Giving out last minute details

Get a list or an itinerary together so everyone can be prepared. If you don’t let people know until the last minute it will do nothing but create stress for everyone, yourself included. Be clear about the details as soon as you can so your girls know what to expect and where to be when.

  Being a know-it-all

Knowing how you want everyone to look and act on your big day is one thing, being a snotty B about getting things that way is UN-acceptable behavior. Asking your pale bridesmaids to tan, your blonde to touch up her roots, or your lip gloss queen to go easy is not okay. You know and love them for who they are remember why you asked them to be there in the first place.

Nobody likes a bridezilla 

Your big day is finally here, enjoy it! Don’t snip at your girls because you are stressed out. They are here to love and support you. Remember that when someone accidentally steps on your dress while giving you a hug.

De-stress with Yoga

We know wedding planning is stressful. If soaking in the tub and wine aren’t doing the trick, try some yoga.

Yoga is a one of the oldest and best stress relievers for your body.

It’s not only good for stress relief, it’s also a low impact form of exercise that is good for your mind too.

Below our some of our favorite poses:

Child’s Pose

Like a child, this pose puts you in a fetal position. It relaxes every part of your body – releasing tension especially in the lower back.

child pose

Mountain Pose

This balance pose helps to work on concentration. It brings your attention to the present. Thinking of the past can be depressing, thinking of the future can make you anxious. Being and living in the present is the way to go.

Tree pose

Downward Dog

Similar to child’s pose, downward dog releases tension over your entire body.

Down Dog

Corpse Pose

Just like the name sounds, you simply lay on your back with arms at your sides. Focus on deep breathing as you release stress through your fingertips.

Corpse Pose

Healthy YOU: Navigating Pumpkin Season

The leaves are turning and pumpkin flavor everything is all over the place. Oh how we love Fall.


It’s so easy on these brisk mornings and dark evenings to cozy up on the couch and snuggle in.

Way too easy. Trust us.

The only more comforting than a soft blanket and your significant other is chocolate. And snacks. Maybe some Halloween candy too. (Fun size means more, right?)


Summer is not that far gone and Spring is right around the corner. The way far corner, but it’s still coming. So is wedding season. Remember that when you get the whip on your pumpkin spice latte.

Here are a few tips we like that help ease into the chilly weather without losing our calorie count completely.

  1. Drink Water. Warm or hot water specifically. Water helps to curb hunger and warmer water keeps you satisfied and cozy.
  2. Search sites like Pinterest and Spark People for healthier pumpkin flavored goodies that are easier on the scale.
  3. Bundle up and tough it out. You can still enjoy the outdoors, just break out those cute boots and scarf.
  4. Move your workout indoors. Take the hold off your gym membership or pop in a workout DVD.
  5. Soup it up! Soup is so entirely delicious, especially in the Fall. It’s also very filling and can be one of the healthiest options for comfort food.
  6. Make your own hot chocolate. So easy. Mix 1-2 TBSP of coccoa powder + 8oz of your favorite milk + 1 tsp of sugar. Thin out with water or add more powder for more thickness. Clean, healthy, and warm.

It’s so easy to cozy up into Fall! It’s one of the prettiest times of the year and also a kind of pre-test for the impending cookie season. Follow our favorite ways to keep in check this year.



Say YES to your Vendors

With planning the perfect wedding comes certain expectations. It’s YOUR DAY after all! You get 1 wedding and you need a team of pros to pull it all off. The big question, how to pick the right team to work with?!

1. Follow your gut. You checked out their social media, their website and maybe even their client testimonials. Did you get {warm fuzzies} or {cold pricklies} ? Even a business that has the best reputation might not be the best choice if you don’t “hit it off” Communication is key- you have to work with someone you vibe with.


2. Are they in the budget? Even if you find the perfect {Dress, photographer, honeymoon destination} Can you make it work from a financial aspect? You may need to move other things around. Nothing is worse than 2 years of credit card debt.

3. Is your date available? If not, can you set an alternate? All the stars must align for your {DREAM TEAM} to come together

4. Do they offer a discount? Some vendors offer a discount on their products or services if you book during a show, pay in full or purchase more than one service. It never hurts to ask.


5. Stay within {budget}. No one likes that word. Wouldn’t it be nice if “money tree” was an item you could put on your registry? It’s not. Find out what you can afford and stick to it. You will be happy when you can have that new couch {table, mini-vacation, etc}. It will be so much better than that extra {FILL IN THE BLANK}

Maids Shopping: Prepping the Girls

You said “yes” to your perfect dress. Now it’s time to find dresses for your best girls! Shopping for your maids can be easy or it can be hard. We may have some experience in helping brides find their perfect dresses and have compiled some of our best advice.


Pick a day and time. Pick something that works for you. Create a group text or Facebook message and get the word out. Don’t be disappointed when not everyone can make it. In most cases it’s impossible to round everyone up on the same day. For those who can not make the shopping date, fill them in with photos and set up a time to bring them in – just the two of you.

Prepare them. Let them know what to expect when the shopping day comes around. Most dresses are sampled in a bridal 10 or 12 (regular size 6-8). Most appointments are scheduled to last about 90 minutes. Also, upon ordering they will need to make a deposit on the final selection. (usually 50%)

Share your style ahead of time. Remind them (in the nicest way you can) this is your day. Show them styles that you are liking, and paint a picture of what you are wanting your dresses to look like. Most salons have hundreds of dresses to look through- it can be overwhelming.

Designate a try on model. It’s much easier to have 1-2 models show the group dresses than to have your entire entourage trying things on.

Plan to have drinks or lunch after. Make sure there is enough time left in the day to make a bonding experience out of it. It’s not very often you can get the whole group together and planning goes so quickly. Make the most of it.


Buying Suits is better, isn’t it?

Rather than renting menswear for your wedding, your considering just purchasing suits. It’s cheaper and everyone can use a suit… right? Not necessarily.

This popular thinking is very popular among couples right now. For some weddings, this is a great choice. For most though, rentals are a better idea. You are given a better product at a lesser price.

Weighing out the pros and cons of purchasing versus renting is so important before making your decision.

Myth: Suits are cheaper.

Reality: Suits are the purchase of a jacket and pant (sometimes a vest).  Yes,  those two pieces might carry a minimal cost. Ask yourself this..

Are the gentleman in your party going sans shirts, shoes and accessory?

We hope not! Along with the purchase of a suit comes the rental or purchase of a shirt, vest and tie, shoe, cuff-links  and pocket square. Shoes also need to be considered. Not everyone will have an acceptable pair of shoes at hand. Purchasing or even just renting these items will add up quickly.

Also, suits require alterations to obtain ideal fit. Not only does this add to the budget. It requires time and an appointment.

Myth: Everyone can use a suit.

Reality: Not everyone can actually use a suit. Today, most professional jobs only require “business casual”. Most people do not wear suits to work. As far as other social events go, the average person only attends a formal event every 2 years. Most formal events are also “business casual”…

If you are thinking they can wear it in another wedding, think again. Each designer has a unique fabric, fit and lapel style. Even thought you have impeccable taste..the selection for your big day will likely not be the same as someone else. 

Myth: Rentals are so expensive

Reality: Most full service stores offer a free groom and discounts of up to $50 off each additional rental. The savings, especially during bridal shows and peak booking season can be amazing. You can easily gain leverage with a large wedding party.


Myth: Buying gets you a better product.

Reality: Renting gets you a better product. A typical rental coat and pant would retail for $500-$800. They are made from fine fabrics, high thread count wool (meaning a soft feel) and have a designer name brand behind them. The typical suit is purchased for around $100. The suit is $100 suit. They are polyester, imported from China and have no designer or brand name to stand behind them. It’s nice for day use or for a guest to wear to your wedding. Next to your bridal gown, your perfect dress- it might look a little cheap.


Myth: At least we can try a suit on…

Reality: Your full service store will offer a complete try on for you before you make your final decision. If you are on the fence about accessory items or unsure of fit. You can try it on.

Even though it’s popular right now, and might seem like a good idea- consider your options before making your final decision to purchase suits. It’s your wedding day- your wedding photographs. The average bridal gown costs $1589 .. what would it look best next to?

Rentals get a bad rep sometimes. Today, styles are different than they were when you went to prom. Found something on Pinterest? Rent it. It will complete the other half to your perfect wedding look.


Say YES to the dress: Tip for shopping success

You said YES to the groom, now it’s time to say YES to the dress!

The appointment is made, your Pinterest board is complete and you are ready to shop.

There are certain items you should have with you at your appointment that will make your experience easier and more pleasant. 

  1. A nude strapless bra
  2. Nude heels or your wedding shoes if you already have them
  3. Simple Jewelry (if any at all)

There are also some things you can do that will help you visualize better.

  1. Have your hair somewhat “done”  – your consultant will put at least one accessory item in your hair. A bridal appointment is not complete without at least trying on one veil.
  2. Wear neutral or very minimal makeup. You want the focus to really be on the dress.
  3. Eat light before, you don’t want to be starving while making such an important decision.
  4. Bring one or two important people with you. An entire entourage will make the decision process harder.


We’re Moving! {DOWNTOWN}

We are thrilled to announce that our Grand Forks store is moving {DOWNTOWN}

Our new address will be 425 North 4th Street – a few blocks North of Kittsona and across the street from Central High School!

We will be open for pick-ups only from July 24th-26th to complete the process. Please message us on Facebook messenger for the quickest reply.

You are going to LOVE the new space!


Asking for gifts is tacky, isn’t it?


You might think a gift registry is old school. Maybe you think it’s tacky. You don’t want to seem greedy “asking” for gifts.

Well guess what?!

People are going to buy you a gift for your wedding anyway. It may as well be something you would like and can use.

With that being said, you don’t have to go overboard. A gift registry can be as simple or as crazy as you want.

I was married at 27 and had been living on my own for a while. My husband was in the same boat (29) We had many of the common household items already. We used our Target gift registry as a way to upgrade and update some of the items we already were using. Once we received gift items, we were able to “donate” our starter items to younger siblings.

Maybe this is your circumstance, maybe not.

If you are new and just starting out, think of the little things. You and your future spouse might need a lot as you get settle into married life. Register for items such as towels, measuring cups and even serving spoons. All these things add up and when you are just getting started.

A traditional gift registry might not be your thing, that is okay. Contact your local travel agent and have them set up a “honeymoon registry” for you. This way, you can go on your dream honeymoon or do extra excursions while there if you already have one planned.

Tech savvy? Amazon has a gift registry as well. You don’t even need to leave your home- and neither do your guests. This is very convenient for those who might be traveling from afar (or celebrating from afar). Nothing beats 2 day prime shipping.

If you truly don’t need or want anything for your wedding, there are registry options for you too. Ask guests to donate to your favorite (or their favorite) charity in lieu of wedding gifts. There is a worthy cause out there that could use your support, trust me.

Now that we have established why you should register and gone over some options- consider these etiquette suggestions.

  • DO NOT – I repeat do not put your registry information on your wedding invites. This is tacky. Your registry information goes two places. (1) your wedding website (2) your shower invites. People will find out your registry information.
  • Register for different items at different price points. You want your guests to have options that fit the budget. Registering for only high end items is not the way to go.
  • Check on your registry often. If the selection for people to pick from is dwindling- add more items. This is really important in the two weeks leading up to a shower or your wedding day.
  • After every shower, after every party and after every gift is opened- Send a “Thank You”. A handwritten message is the way to go. There is nothing sweeter than a personalized “Thank You” expressing gratitude for a gift received. You might not dig the squirrel feeder your cousin gave you- but they thought it was neat. They thought you would like it. That is what matters.

Even though a gift registry might seem like a thing of the past, it’s not. There is a reason why they exist and most importantly- why you should have one.

You get married one time, embrace the motions. Just get registered.