Miss. B. Perfect-Affairs is our resident wedding etiquette expert. It’s nearly impossible to make it through planning without some feathers being ruffled….Have a question about a sticky planning situation? Write in or comment below.
Help!? My future “Mr” and me are having quite the disagreement. It is our first holiday season as an engaged couple. We want to celebrate with everyone, but there is so little time. I feel like what we do this year will set the expectations for the future. How do we decide what to do without hurting feelings? Both of our families have traditions neither of us want to miss out on….
First of all, congratulations on your engagement! The most wonderful time of the year can also be the most stressful time of the year. Take a couple deep breaths and relax.
Your families know it’s it’s just not possible for you to be in the same place at the same time. Knowing your about to be married, they surely expect they will need to accommodate. Sit down and talk it out. Find out what is important to each side and then make your plans, as a couple.
It works different for every situation. Maybe you will alternate years with each side of the family. What about celebrating on a different day? The possibilities are endless.
The most important thing is that you and your soon-to-be-hubby are on the same page. You are going to be married, you are going to be family. As long as you are in agreement, everyone else will understand.
I know I will be “ringing” in the New Year. My boyfriend has the ring and will be proposing sometime over this upcoming holiday season. (eeeekkk!!) Venues book up fast in our area… Is it inappropriate to start my planning?
How exciting for you! The most special time in your adult life is about to unfold, planning your big day.
Although it’s never to early to dream and wish- if you aren’t “official” it might be too early to plan. Your boyfriend is surely planning a sweet and thoughtful proposal. Jumping the gun on venues will lead to other planning.
Let things happen in time. It will make everything more special.
If your dream venue is meant to be, it will be open on your date. If it’s booked for next year, you will surely be able to secure your dream date for the following.
What is the rush on planning the big day when you have forever?