Miss. B. Perfect-Affairs: The Etiquette Expert

Miss. B. Perfect-Affairs is our resident wedding etiquette expert. It’s nearly impossible to make it through planning without some feathers being ruffled….Have a question about a sticky planning situation? Write in or comment below. 

Miss. B-

Our August 23rd wedding is quickly approaching. Although we don’t really have a “theme”, the feel is kind of rustic and vintage. Besides finalizing the little things and actually sending out the invites, all we have left to do is favors. Do we have to have favors? We feel like it’s an unnecessary expense that people throw out anyway. What are your thoughts? What are some ideas that our guests might actually use (that won’t break the bank)

– Un-Favored 

Dear, Un-Favored

First of all, congrats on your super planning. It’s nice you have so much done and you can enjoy our long awaited summer.

Favors are simply a little way of saying “Thank You” to your guests for attending your wedding. They serve as a little reminder of the celebration. Yes, they are necessary. No, they don’t need to break the bank.

Using the feel of your wedding, there are so many different options. Consider some seed packets with a cute note or maybe even a small plant. Another option might be a can koozie. This is something your guests would likely use at your party and at many others. Something new and trending is popcorn or candy bars. Buy in bulk and let guests fill a little take home bag.

All of the above are cost friendly and usable options. Remember, favors are simply a little token for your guests. They are both a “Thank You” and a little way for them to remember your celebration. There is never a good reason you should not provide favors.

Best of luck planning,

Miss. B.

Miss B,

My October wedding is quickly approaching. We have all the attire figured out except the men. We were originally thinking of going without jackets- just shirt, vest, tie, and nice black pants. Now, we have some concerns about everyone matching and if that look is formal enough? Our wedding is in a church and we are having our reception at a local event center.



Dear, Tux-or-not

I completely understand your concern. You are not alone in this predicament. The “vested look” is an ever growing trend these past few years. When appropriate, it looks great. Key word: appropriate.

A simple way to determine what to do is to take a look at the rest of your attire. What does your dress look like? How about the bridesmaids dresses? You said your wedding was in a church and you were having a reception at an event center. My suggestion would be to “honor your dress”.

Unless you are having an outdoor ceremony, getting married in a barn or on a beach- A jacket is usually a must. You put so much time and energy into planning and looking perfect, make sure your groom follows “suit”. (A little pun intended)


Miss B.


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