Miss. B. Perfect-Affairs is our resident wedding etiquette expert. It’s nearly impossible to make it through planning without some feathers being ruffled….Have a question about a sticky planning situation? Write in or comment below.
I‘m newly engaged and want to have my wedding yet this year. A small quaint little wedding with just the people we are closest to. With the limited time we have to plan, I don’t want to get too tangled up in the details that come with a larger affair. My fiancee is on board with my idea. One problem though: he has a huge family, some of which I have only met once.
How can we have our small little wedding without making someone too upset?
– Mrs. Can’t-it-just-be-small
The guest list can be one of the most stressful aspects of planning your wedding day. Who to invite and who to leave out can cause friction and heartache to both parties. At the end of the day though, it’s YOUR wedding. If you want a small wedding, have a small wedding. Simply explain that you are having a small affair with just a very few in attendance. Surely, people will understand and respect your decision.
Since his side of the family is so large- large enough that you have only met some of them once or twice, they might not be as hurt as you think. Chances are, his family has a wedding once or twice a year. You doing things a little different than then norm might be a welcomed change.
Another option, have a large reception at a later date. This way you wouldn’t need to get too carried away now and you would be able to celebrate with everyone at a larger party later. It is not uncommon for a couple to have a more private ceremony and a larger party later on. They don’t need to happen one right after the other.
Whatever you decide to do, remember it’s your day. You should be able to have the wedding you want, even if it’s very small.
Best of luck planning,
My fiancee and I have dreams of clear waters and a romantic sunset for the backdrop of our wedding this December. It would mean the world to me for all of our family and friends to join us. Everyone sharing in the joy of our ceremony, just isn’t a reality though. Between airfare and hotel, our dream wedding would cost each person attending around $800. Not everyone can afford this.
What are some ideas we to involve all our loved ones in our special day?
Congrats to you on your wedding day! It sounds like it will be a dream. I can picture it now.
It can be hard to think of your perfect day without all your loved ones in attendance. There are so many ways to involve them in your big day though.
Are you using a videographer? Many times, either them or even the resort will offer live streaming of the wedding. Then, they can actually “be” there. A close relative or friend could even host a viewing party. Everyone could meet there, sip tropical cocktails and truly feel like they are in paradise with you.
Have a pre-wedding party. Even if you are having a reception once you come back home, have a pre-party. This can be like an engagement party with a tropical theme to it. It would give your would-be guests the chance to visit with you and talk about your wedding. It would be a time for both of you, as a couple to spend quality time. Unlike the bridal shower and bachelor party where it’s usually just “the guys” or “ladies” .
Many couples chose to have an at home reception when they do a destination style wedding. This is the perfect time to celebrate your new marriage with all of your loved ones. It gives everyone the opportunity to come and congratulate you.
As you can see, there are so many different ways to have your dream wedding and not leave out your friends and family who can’t make it.