Congratulations you are engaged! This is the most exciting time in your life and you do not need the stress of the Holidays to ruin this excitement. I understand completely that it will be hard not to spend as much time with your family as maybe you want to, this is a very big change. How do you determine who you spend time with and what days you do? Well to answer this question you just have to start out with being honest with everyone involved.
First you need to tell your parents and his parents that you are going to have to split up the time and no matter what the choice is you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and you are trying to make the Holidays fun!
Some choices that you could do would be spend the week of Christmas with one family and then have Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with just the two of you. Then the next week so New Years you could spend with the other family, this way you and your soon to be husband still have some time to spend together. The next option (and this may only work if you live close) is to spend Christmas Eve with one family and Christmas Day with the other. In the end whatever it is that you choose to do, will work out how it’s suppose to, and everyone will have spent time with you.
The Holidays are a time when you are suppose to spend time with your family and friends, and no matter how much time it is that you spend with them they will be glad you considered them and their feelings.
I hope that this will help take the pressure off and you will be able to enjoy the Holidays!
Enjoy your time with your family and friends!