After your engagement, before the planning, comes the all needed discussion: Who pays? There are many different ways couples pay for their weddings. Sit down and have a conversation with your fiancé, your families, and find out which way is the best for your wedding.
The traditional: Bride’s parents pay. This approach still works in many situations. Although, we can’t forget that the person who pays will usually ultimately get what he or she wants. At first, Bride and Groom say; “no big deal, we can bend a little” according to what mom and dad want. But later in the planning process this can create unneeded drama and add to the stress of planning a wedding. For example, when bride wants a sleek and body hugging and mom wants puffy and princess- if Mom’s footing the bill, who wins? If the bride’s parents pay, the couple will have the road to financial success paved. They are able to start out their new life together, without the woes of paying wedding bills.
A new approach: Everyone helps out. Another way to go about paying for a wedding is when everyone chips in. With today’s economy more and more weddings are being planned this way. When all sets of parents, other family members, and even the bride and groom help pay for a wedding it can create a “group effort” feel in the planning. When the actual event happens everyone has an emotional attachment because they feel part ownership in what is going on. One way to ensure smooth sailing with this way: designate different parts of the wedding to those who are helping with the bill. This way, everyone has their own special part and no one feels left out. Another good thing about this way: no one family or person is left to cover all the expenses.
Going it alone: The bride and groom foot the bill. According to costofwedding.com a couple living in Fargo, ND will spend $18,364 and $30,606 on their wedding celebration. This is a large amount of money for a new couple. If the bride and groom choose to pay; they run the risk of depleting their savings or worse, racking up thousands in debt. If a realistic budget is created, and time is given to save; this may be the way to go. If you are the one paying, you have all the freedom to choose what you want without offending family members.
Before planning, sit down and have the all important discussion: Who pays? There are many different ways to cover the costs of a wedding, it’s just finding out what is best for you and your wedding.