Help!? I can’t decide: Some tips on selecting your bridesmaids

Help!? I can’t decide: Some tips on selecting your bridesmaids

Bridesmaid duties far exceed posing for a few photos and standing next to the bride on her big day. Being surrounded by your closest family and friends during your planning process is very important. So, how do you choose who will be your all important bridesmaids?

To some this may come easy but others might have a little trouble. If you are one of those brides who are having trouble choosing her bridesmaids, keep reading.

Selecting your wedding party should be one of the first things you do in your planning process. They need to be a part of the whole experience, starting now. You will also need to leave plenty of time for selecting attire, planning parties, DIY-ing, and all things wedding.  The bridesmaids should be a part of all aspects of your wedding.

When choosing your bridesmaids here are some things to keep in mind:

Who have you known the longest? Who is most supportive?  Who are you close with right now? Consider the financial responsibilities of being a bridesmaid and make sure you select women who are comfortable with them. Also, keep in mind that your bridesmaids will be spending a lot of time together- choose people who get along well.

If you have a large friends circle or family, there are many other important ways to involve people in your wedding planning process.  Every bride needs a personal attendant (or two). Being asked to read during the ceremony, sing a song, or even usher-ette are all ways to make sure everyone can be a part of your special day!

-          Meaghan R.

10 Things Brides Tend to Forget – Hannah H.

10 Things Brides Tend to Forget

1. Making post-wedding plans:

I’m not talking about the honeymoon, who could forget the honeymoon? That is probably one of the first plans that you and your future husband think about. I’m talking about what you will do right after you wedding. If you don’t want the fun to end after the last dance, make plans at your hotel or somewhere local to move the party to. On the other hand if you do have an early morning I suggest that you make your room as private as possible.

2. Bring your overnight bag:

If you’re allowed to check into your room early, pick someone to drop your overnight bag at your hotel. A guest will be more than happy to do this for you since they will be checking in there anyway! If your things can’t arrive sooner then you, ask a bridesmaid to be responsible for bringing your bag to the wedding and finding a safe spot for it in the bridal suite.

3. Picking someone to take your things home after the reception:

Your gifts, mementos, and any leftover food or cake need to be moved from the reception area. Choose a person and let them know about their responsibility a few weeks ahead of time. If you are changing out of your gown before you head to your hotel room, make sure it arrives to your home safely. Even if you don’t have any plans to get it professionally preserved, you don’t want to leave it behind! Make sure there’s a hanger and a garment bag on hand (the one that your dress came in will do) so your dress stays in tip-top shape.

4. Deciding where everything goes:

Besides planning where all of your guests are going to sit, you need to figure out where you’ll put programs, place cards, and menus (if you are having them). Once you’ve picked who’s going to set these out, your wedding coordinator, bridesmaid and banquet managers are all good choices, give them clear instructions on where they should, and what their duties are.

5. Decorating the other areas:

Of course, no guest will walk out of your wedding if the bathroom and cocktail bar are left bare. But with all the energy that’s put into dressing up the reception and ceremony spaces, you might want to put in the small extra effort to give these spots the decor they deserve. A few candles will work.

6. Buying gifts for the wedding party:

When gifts are constantly coming to your door, it’s hard to remember that you also need to give gifts also! So who makes it on the gifts list? Everyone who plays a role in your day! Yes, this includes your parents and in-laws too. You don’t need to make a big presentation.

7. Choosing how to gather the gifts:

There are three times when guests are likely to thrust gifts at you: while they are in the receiving line, during your table visit, and when they leave for the night. Make sure this doesn’t happen! Designate a person to collect envelopes, and have them keep an eye open for guest with gifts, this way they can point the guest in the right direction as to where to put the gifts. This person will also be in charge of bringing the gifts back to your house.

8. Figure out your day-after plans:

If you are leaving for your honeymoon straight from your hotel, make advance arrangement for transportation. Also, be sure you bring any luggage with you (and your passport if you need it). If you’re not going on your honeymoon right away, then you need to know where you’re going the morning after your wedding and how you are going to get there. Park your car at the hotel if they allow, or ask a friend to come pick you up and bring you where you want to go the next day. Don’t schedule your ride too early, with any luck, you’ll be exhausted! J

9. Bring the legal documents:

Signing your marriage certificate after the wedding ceremony is one of the most important aspects of your day; after all, it makes your wedding official! After all the hours of planning, you’re probably more focused on the party afterwards. Without the paperwork, all the stress and money spent will be for nothing.

10. Making and confirming itineraries:

Check in with every single supplier, from the limo driver to the liner rental company, one week before your wedding. Many of your pros will beat you to it, so be ready to go over times and locations whenever you get a call. Send out agendas to your bridesmaids and groomsmen, too, how else will they know what time you’re talking photos? If someone in the bridal party is notorious for being late, start their schedule half an hour early just in case.

Hopefully with these helpful reminders your wedding day will go as perfect as you have imagined!

-          Hannah H.

“Chop it off and wear it again?” – by Hannah J.

Chop it off and wear it again??

We have all heard that post wedding cliché phrase. “That dress is so cute you could chop it off and wear it again!”

Who actually acts upon this suggestion? For a majority of women the once “bridesmaid dress” is now a “dust collector”. After hearing this phrase over and over at the store (Affairs By Brittany) I decided to come up with some practical ideas for bridesmaid gowns post-wedding.

Don’t forget though, there are some cute styles out there a person could get plenty of use from.

Before you hastily decide that your dress is too much satin, too much ruching, and cannot be worn again STOP!

Ask yourself a few questions and decide if this dress is truly a destined dust collector or a possible addition to your ever expanding wardrobe:

Could this dress be paired with a jacket, sweater or scarf to give it a more casual look?

Would this dress work with a different pair of shoes or maybe tights?

How many different looks can I get out of this dress with different accessories?

Could alterations transform the look of this dress?

Could the fabric of this dress be used for another craft?

Next time your girlfriend approaches you with a bridesmaid proposition instead of dreading another expensive one-time occasion dress think of it as a unique addition to your wardrobe and start planning possible accessories.

Hannah J.

You tell us! What do you want to know?

This blog is all about you and your wedding. So, with that being said: What would you like to know about? Want to know about the hot new wedding fashion trends, ideas for your reception, maybe etiquette questions? We are here to help you! Comment below and we’ll get right to work.

Why book a Wedding Videographer by Matt Philipenko- Life’s Legacy Productions

Matt Philipenko of Life’s Legacy Productions offers some advice on why you want to have a professional videographer at your wedding -

 Why book a Wedding Videographer

Sure you’ve got your wedding photographer, but video is becoming an increasingly more important means to capture your wedding memories. Here are some of the reasons to consider having your wedding captured by a professional wedding videographer.

1. Save the Date.

By the time your wedding day arrives, you will have spent countless hours planning, anticipating, and dreaming of one of the most important days of your life. Then the day finally arrives, and it’s over before you even know it. Ask any bride and you’ll hear familiar phrases: “It all went by so fast”, “Everything was a blur”, “I don’t remember that!” With video, you’ll see all the details you missed, and you can relive your special day again and again.

2. The Sights.

Your photographer will capture the highlights of your wedding and provide you with beautiful images, but they won’t be able to capture all the sights that video can. Video captures 30 frames per second. We use high-definition cameras that capture stunning images. You’ve planned and prepared so everything will look just right – and you’ve never looked better! You may never wear that beautiful dress again – remember it!

3. The Sounds.

Video captures not only the sights and motion of your wedding, but the sounds as well. Wireless microphones can capture the sounds that even your guests won’t hear. Hear your vows with crystal clear clarity. Hear the toasts and speeches exactly as they happened. Hear the music, the cheers, and the laughter of all your closest friends and relatives.

4.Posterity.

Imagine having a professionally produced video of your parents or grandparents wedding. Imagine what a treasure this would be to share with them and pass from generation to generation. Now imagine watching your own wedding video with your children or grandchildren. Being able to share these priceless memories with your loved ones is something you can cherish for years to come.

5. No Regrets.

A study done by the Wedding and Event Videographers Association (WEVA) surveyed recent newlyweds and found that 98% of newlyweds recommended that brides have their wedding videotaped. Of the 38% of brides that did not have their wedding videotaped, 63% now recommended that future brides hire a professional videographer. They also found that “Brides said video does a better job of capturing the emotions of the day, records the history of the day better, and they strongly feel that future children will enjoy their wedding video more than their wedding photographs.

6. Uncle Frank Can’t do it.

Sure you’ve got family or friends with a video camera who are willing to tape your wedding. But as well intentioned as they may be, they just cannot capture your unique celebration the way a trained and experienced professional can. Professional videographers invest thousands of dollars in cameras, microphones, and editing equipment to capture the best images and sound. We use 2-3 videographers to capture all the action from multiple angles. All things you can’t expect from a family member or friend who should be enjoying themselves at your wedding. Professional videographers then use their experience, training, and creativity to produce a final product that is truly worthy of your investment.  Still not sure you need to have your wedding professionally videotaped? Why not be on the safe side and just do it. Your wedding is one of the biggest days of your life. You won’t have another chance to have this day preserved forever!

An email from one of their customers:

When you think about your wedding day you want everything to go perfect, and remember every aspect of that special day. We had made the decision to hire Matt as our videographer to hopefully capture the important moments and moments we did not even get a chance to see the day of our wedding. When we received our video back of our day Matt captured more than those little moments, he captured the moments we would have never even thought of capturing along with the most important aspects of that day. The organizational skills that Matt has is amazing in every way possible and even our guests could tell he takes pride in what he can accomplish for a bride and groom. The finished product that we received from Matt brought tears, laughter, and memories we will never forget of that special day. The tears were joyful tears of being able to relive those moments, and the laughter was because we were able to see some things that happened behind the scenes that added detail to that day. We hired Matt and chose the highest package because we wanted to make sure everything was captured on film and we also received the love story with slideshow. That is something we have forever and will always be able to look back on. We could not be happier with what Matt has provided us and done for our special day. We would recommend his services to anyone and let them know they will never be disappointed. Thank you for all that you have done to capture those special memories on camera Matt. We will be able to have this for a lifetime and our children and their children be able to see what our special day was like. Thanks again!

The Tebergs

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Tips for ordering your perfect wedding cake by Darla Julin – Fantasies in Frosting

Darla Julin CD,  is an award winning cake artist and baker- and owner of Fantasies in Frosting. She will help you design the cake of your dreams! She has been making delicious wedding cakes (among other decedent desserts) for over 27 years. In this post, she offers some helpful advice for couples who are planning their wedding.

Many websites and wedding “planners” suggest that the bride and groom order their wedding cake 2-3 months in advance.  For our business, that would be too late. We suggest you book your cake 6-12 months in advance. Wedding season starts in April and goes through October. We are usually making cakes for every weekend.  If a bride is interested in having us make their cake, they can put down a deposit and that will hold and book their date. Then they can come back to us 2-3 months before the wedding and can finalize the details.

Before you consider a cake shop or bakery for your wedding cake, talk to them to see if you need to make an appointment for a consultation or if you can just drop in to see them.  All of our consultations are by appointment only.  This way we can give the one on one attention each bride deserves.

Bring a few people with you, (1-3) but not anymore than that.  Everyone will have an opinion on what cake flavor and style you should have. The more people you bring along, the harder it is for the bride to make a decision.  Usually the bride and groom come to the appointment along with the bride’s mother and maybe the groom’s mother also.                                                                                                                                                                Have a budget in mind.  If you are not really sure- it is difficult for the baker or cake designer to help you pick out a design. The cake is just as important as the rest of the food that is going to be served at your reception.  You want a cake that tastes great on the inside and has beautiful decorations on the outside.

Get referrals from other brides and your friends. This is our best form of advertising. If brides are giving you good referrals for wedding vendors, use them. It will save you time and money so you don’t have to run all over town checking out other vendors.

Some things to discuss in your consultation:

Approximately how many guests will you have?  What are your wedding colors? Are you having a topper on your tiered cake?  Will you be keeping the top tier of your cake for your 1st anniversary? Do you have any designs in mind?  Are you having a “theme” for your wedding? All of these factors into what your wedding cake will look like.

Have a prominent place to set your cake at the reception site. It should be placed on a table located where all of your guests will be able to view it. Cakes are works of art and should be placed appropriately. Have your photographer take pictures of the cake alone and then with the bride and groom cutting the first piece and feeding each other.  Leftover pieces are sometimes served towards the end of the dance or at the gift opening on the next day.  Either way, you won’t have any cake left over!

Wedding Wishes for a Sweet Life Together, Darla Julin, CD, Fantasies in Frosting

Contact Fantasies in Frosting for your perfect wedding cake or treats.

All consultations are by appointment only.

(218) 236-1176  or cakelady@gomoorhead.com

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Fantasies in Frosting
207 17th St. S.
Moorhead, MN 56560